If you’re wondering how to make s*x last longer, you’re not alone. According to Harry Fisch, M.D., a board-certified urologist and the author of The New Naked: The Ultimate s*x Education for Grown-Ups, 45 percent of men finish within two minutes during s*x.
s*x doesn’t always have to a slow, tantric-inspired session, but two minutes is not enough time for most women to catch up and get to the good stuff. Experts call this “the arousal gap.” So, what can you and your guy do to help him last longer in bed? We went straight to an expert who would know, Laurence A. Levine, M.D., a urologist and the chief medical officer of Promescent, an FDA-approved topical spray that helps men last longer. Dr. Levine provided some tips for how to make s*x last longer, leaving you and your guy sweetly satisfied.
1. Strengthen the Pelvic Floor
You may already be doing your own Kegel exercises, which can help heighten your arousal. But he should be doing his own version of male keels. “Studies show that Kegel exercises can help men improve the strength of their erection and help with premature ejaculation,” says Dr. Levine.
2. Try Different Positions
Don’t stick to just one position from beginning to all-too-soon end during s*x. “Switching positions and trying different types of stimulation can provide continued arousal but maybe not to the point of orgasm,” advises Dr. Levine. “So if she takes longer, as is usually the case, she can gear up to the orgasms more gradually with him and both can last longer.”
3. Be Active
You don’t have to exercise together if you don’t want to, but Dr. Levine says that it’s important for your s*x life that you both to stay in shape. “Exercising regularly will keep the blood flowing for both of you,” he says. “Both of you will feel healthier, and you get the bonus endorphins and stamina to mix into your couple time.” And it doesn’t have to be a major change; losing just 10 pounds can help boost your s*x drive.
4. Masturbate Before S*x
It really works. If a guy can find the time for a quick masturbation session, he’ll see the benefits when it’s time to do the deed. If he’s already ejaculated within a couple of hours of having s*x, it’ll take him longer to climax the second time around.
5. Quit Smoking!
Um, you should already know this by now. But in case you and/or your guy needed one more reason to quit, lighting up is dark news in the bedroom. “A healthy vascular system is essential if your man wants to have a reliable and strong erection,” Dr. Levine warns. “Smoking does nothing but slow both of you down.”
6. Limit Drinking
A drink or two is fine (especially if it helps get you in the mood), but anything more can ruin it all. “Alcohol is a depressant and at higher doses can put him at risk of delivering a poor performance,” states Dr. Levine.
7. Apply Pressure
When he feels like he’s about to ejaculate, he can grab his shaft right below the head and gently squeeze for 5-10 seconds. The pressure on his urethra and constriction of blood flow will help repress his orgasm. This kind of tactic is a common practice for edging, where the goal is halt an orgasm (for men or women) just before climax, take a moment to calm down, and then start back up again, ultimately leading to an incredibly intense orgasm eventually.
8. Try a C*ck Ring
Just as he can apply pressure with his hand, a cock ring provides sustained pressure and restricts blood flow. The ring fits over the base of his penis and keeps his penis harder longer while also delay his orgasm. (Cock rings also come in vibrating versions, increasing your pleasure simultaneously.)
9. Use a Condom
For most guys, a condom decreases penis sensitivity (to a degree). The thicker the condom, the less he’ll feel. Condoms come in all different thicknesses, ranging from .05 millimeters to 1 millimeter. If you’re looking for a thick condom to decrease sensation, try Lifestyles Extra Strength. (Never, however, double up on condoms. That is a recipe for condom slippage and tearing.)
10. Try a Topical Medication
“OTC solutions like Promescent allow him to delay orgasm without reducing your sensitivity,” says Dr. Levine. “More control makes for a longer-lasting s*xual experience.” Just be sure to follow the instructions and test it out to find the right dosage for your guy.