Everything You Have Ever Wanted To Know About Anal Sex
Anyone else feel like the anus is the new vagina? Once considered hardcore and taboo, anal sex has become a popular, even commonplace, sex move.
So what exactly constitutes as anal? According to Tristan Taormino, author of The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, anal sex most commonly refers to anal penetration, typically with a penis, aka anal intercourse.
Educators and porn stars alike say it’s the act that so-called “regular women” ask about them about most. All this to say: Butt stuff is having a moment.
Talking about asses and whether or not you want something in yours is essential. Taormino recommends having the conversation about it before you hit the bed.
“I don’t believe in surprise anal sex,” she says. Once everyone has the green light, make sure to apply generous amounts of lube (your butt doesn’t produce its own lube like a vagina does).
Never worry that you’re using too much lube or that it won’t be pleasurable enough for him. This is your ass on the line, literally. Do whatever makes you the most comfortable.
Also, some people use commercial, over-the-counter numbing agents before anal intercourse, which is a huge no-no. You don’t want to ever mask pain, since that’s your body’s way to signal that it’s not happy about what’s happening.
A huge part of enjoying any sexual experience is feeling relaxed and turned on.
Foreplay is always crucial but especially so when it comes to anal. Taormino says, “You can’t go from zero to 60 in five seconds.
The anal quickie is not a good thing. You really have to go slow, communicate with your partner, and work your way up to anal intercourse.”
She recommends starting off with fingers or a small toy, and monitoring for any pain or weird feelings. “It shouldn’t hurt and if it does, something’s wrong,” she says.
“There could be so many reasons for pain. It could be there hasn’t been enough warm-up, you’re not turned on enough, you haven’t used enough lube or the right lube, or general tension or stress.
You’re having anxiety about it and it’s registering in your butt.” So relax and, yes, unclench.
Once that happens, Taormino warns that beginners may feel like they have to poop. Totally normal.
Stop everything until the feeling goes away. Also as a precaution, she recommends “pooping before your hot anal sex date.”
An anonymous porn star previously spoke about her anal sex prep routine and revealed that it was no joke.
She described the process as an “endless ‘cleaning out’” involving “enema after enema.” Yikes.
But you definitely don’t need to go that far. It’s worth noting that enemas come with risks such as perforation of the rectum and nausea.
Just taking a poop and a nice, warm shower to clean the area is probably the safest way to go.
And finally, remember to definitely use condoms if you’re not in a monogamous relationship or if both parties haven’t been tested for STIs.
Anal sex can also refer to other forms of anal pleasure, like anal penetration with fingers or a toy, or oral anal stimulation, aka rimming. Performing a rim job entails licking, sucking, and pleasuring your partner’s anus with your lips, tongue, and mouth. You might want to ask them to shower first.