Body count is the number of people you have had sex with.
Before explaining why body counts should not be a subject of conversation in your relationship, it is important to explain what it means.
Simply put, body count is the number of people you have sex with. It does not matter how intimate the makeout was, or how much stuff you have done with someone, if he has not penetrated, it does not count as sex in this context.
Body count here refers only to the number of people you have had penetrative sex with.
Sharing the past in new relationships
For every new relationship you find yourself in, there comes a time when you and your partner speak of the past and plan for the future, especially when things are becoming pretty serious and commitment is becoming genuine.
Like I said in previous articles; there are financial conversations that are important at this stage as there are sexual conversations that one must have, too.
Of all the sexual things you can ask from bae/boo though, the body count question is not necessary, and thus not advisable.
And this is simply because some things are just better left unknown, some information better left unfound.
Asking if she’s a virgin is enough instead of asking to know the number of men she’s been with her before you came along. And the question about her virginity is not to be asked with the intent of dumping her if she’s not a virgin. Only childish people still do that.
You can ask if there have been any abortion; that is also a valid question to ask. I mean, this is someone you are getting serious or intend to get serious with, so that question is not unreasonable and deserves an answer, just as women deserve an answer when they ask if you have ever impregnated anyone.
The truth always hurts
When you think about it, there really is nothing to gain from the body count information except that it satisfies your curiosity.
Most times, guys can’t even deal with the truth especially when the babe in question is one that has truly explored her sexuality before they came into the picture.
There is no way to know the correct Nigerian stats, but in England in 2017, it was revealed that the average woman sleeps with eight guys before settling down.
I think a huge number of Nigerian guys will estimate that as being too much.
This is where I get to talk about how unfair it is that guys could have slept with over 10 girls and will be hailed a champ and a woman does the same and she’s a tramp. That just doesn’t seem right especially now that gender equality is being called for more.
Back to the body count subject; to ask about your woman this question also puts your relationship in a precarious balance.
If she’s been with more than a few guys and presumes that you’ll be staggered if she tells you, this will prompt her to come up with a lie; which of course is not what you want in your relationship.
If she trusts you with the truth, you may never be able to handle it.
If your relationship is in a good place and everything is going great between your woman and you, you really do not need any inconsequential thing to upstage it. Let sleeping dogs lie, my guy.
If there ever was a list of information that do not have any bearing on that beautiful relationship/marriage happiness you seek, the body count question surely has to be in the top five.
It’s that unimportant.